The Cheering Section

I was trying to think of a way to announce that I just signed with a literary agent this past week, who will represent me and my brand new memoir, The Queen of Everything, without sounding like I was bragging. That’s the weird thing about social media (for me, anyway): whenever I “announce” or “share” publication news, or news like this – that I have signed with an agent – I feel like I am “tooting my own horn.” The fact that I am using so many quotation marks, by the way, shows my ambivalence about this.

Most writers I know are pretty solitary creatures. We can socialize at cocktail parties just fine, and I think I even make a pretty good dinner partner; but I can also go for huge stretches of time alone with my laptop and books and notes. I normally take time every morning for walks with friends, and I spend dinner and evenings with my husband. But during the time when most people are either at work or golfing or playing tennis, I am happily alone. For hours.

At the end of all of those long hours, sometimes a book is born. Along the way, short stories and essays and poems also get birthed. The shorter pieces get sent out and published, submitted by the author herself, and today you can even publish a book on your own. But most professional writers I know dream the dream of having a book taken on by a literary agent, who will then sell the manuscript to a publisher. I myself have been dreaming this dream for many years. I myself have had several false starts on books that went nowhere.

But now I do have a book. And an agent. I have not met Liz Parker of Inkwell Management in person yet, but she sounds really nice on the phone, and she has a good sense of humor. She must, if she loves my book, because my book is pretty funny in parts. In other parts it’s pretty sad though, but that’s pretty much what a memoir is – like life, it has funny and sad parts.

When people ask me what my book is about, I say it’s about being a sister. The funny and the sad parts. Liz said, about my sister with a brain injury – who is the fulcrum of my story about being a sister – that my sister is a “rock star.” I never thought of my sister that way, but I am so happy that she just naturally came across like that in my book, and that Liz saw that she is a rock star. That made me want Liz to represent my book.

Because in life we all need a cheering section, whether we are writers or not. Or if not an entire cheering section, at least one or two or three people who wish you well and are cheering you on to do better.
 

A DIY Approach To Being A Sister

(This is a short excerpt from my just-completed memoir The Queen of Everything.  I loved writing it, but now the hard part – finding an agent and/or publisher!)

No one teaches you how to be a sister. There are entire shelves of books and magazines devoted to teaching you how to be a wife and mother. But being a sister is pretty much on-the-job training with no role models or how-to magazines. Just Mom saying, as she runs out the door to catch the bus to her waitress job, “I only ask one thing. Try not to kill each other.”

But, like every other time in my life when I’ve had no clue how to “be” (which has been a lot) I got much of my guidance from books.

I guess this could be seen as a sort of DIY approach to life, a life learned from books. Jo March and Laura Ingalls Wilder were my early mentors, with the sisters in Jane Austen’s novels nudging them aside later, until Seventeen and Tiger Beat took over my teenage brain and turned me into a narcissistic little bitch who would have traded all five sisters for the complete set of Bonne Bell Basics. Continue reading

An Old-Fashioned Fourth of July

The Fourth of July brings back my childhood to me in a way that other holidays don’t. The Fourth brings with it the pure, unadulterated joy of being a kid.

Just when the thrill of being out of school started to wear off, the fireworks stands went up. Rickety, wooden contraptions with hand-painted signs that listed the various fireworks available. Rockets! Sparklers! Poppers! Roman Candles! Black Cats! Punks!

Suddenly summer wasn’t so boring any more. Continue reading

Supermodel Princesses

(This is another short excerpt from my new memoir The Queen of Everything, a memoir about being a sister.)

My sisters and I had a favorite game we played at night when we were supposed to be sleeping. For years we all slept in the same bedroom, so we spent hours whispering and laughing and doing elaborate gymnastics or ballet routines or circus acts, leaping from bed to bed, until we got too out of control, and suddenly there would be Dad, looming in the doorway.

“Do I have to get the belt?” he would ask. Fathers back then were supposed to say things like that. What did he think we were going to answer? This usually happened three or four times each night. Heavy footsteps down the hall, same belt question from him, same silence from us. We knew we had him outnumbered and besides, he didn’t really have it in him. Five pairs of his own blue eyes blinking innocently at him, unless some of us goody-goodies were faking that we were asleep. Continue reading